tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post3920698210025743925..comments2023-05-19T04:46:54.536-07:00Comments on Beautiful rubbish:: Tales of beauty from the rubbish heap: When redemption looks a lot like a daughterAmber Cadenashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16495600314886616325noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-13863544615618859652014-05-21T18:37:18.537-07:002014-05-21T18:37:18.537-07:00This was so beautifully and gracefully written. Yo...This was so beautifully and gracefully written. You opened the door to your heart wide here and pure love poured out, even if it is a hard kind of love, a love forged in the fires of pain., it is love. I am a better person having read this.Karmen M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06808722278501574962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-82224232336096990072014-05-21T12:59:31.183-07:002014-05-21T12:59:31.183-07:00Thank you Constance! I was utterly determined tha...Thank you Constance! I was utterly determined that any child of mine would feel loved beyond measure and I feel so blessed by God's gift in helping me to do that. =)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032817513066045405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-44141787909078416862014-05-21T12:56:12.813-07:002014-05-21T12:56:12.813-07:00Thank you Kelly for your encouragement and insight...Thank you Kelly for your encouragement and insight! I agree with Amber that having better understanding about honor and the original intention in that context provides a lot of room for varying kinds of relationships. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment and for your positive contribution.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032817513066045405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-17332555822917979012014-05-21T12:48:59.172-07:002014-05-21T12:48:59.172-07:00Thank you so very much Amber! For asking me to wr...Thank you so very much Amber! For asking me to write for your project, first of all; but also for the beautiful support and encouragement. Thank you for your kindness and your heart toward what I have written. What I hope for putting my story "out there" is that other people can see the power of God's redemption in really painful circumstances when we seek it. Also that we don't have to be defined or limited by those circumstances either. I often receive the comment, "You would never know you come from that!" Yes, thankfully I am not defined by the heartache or bitterness, but recognized more by God's grace, forgiveness, and healing. It is a humbling and miraculous gift. PS--I love who you are too. =)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032817513066045405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-53496397934918538092014-05-20T17:42:14.621-07:002014-05-20T17:42:14.621-07:00I love that, a redemption story straight through t...I love that, a redemption story straight through to future generations. He is amazing in faithfulness. I appreciate your presence here, love. So glad you could "meet" Marla and her beautiful heart.Amber Cadenashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16495600314886616325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-10493600897873550172014-05-20T17:35:24.159-07:002014-05-20T17:35:24.159-07:00YES...oh yes, Kelli. Amen. How I appreciate your h...YES...oh yes, Kelli. Amen. How I appreciate your heart here.Amber Cadenashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16495600314886616325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-24682125239487342902014-05-20T17:23:34.980-07:002014-05-20T17:23:34.980-07:00Oh Marla. If I could reach through the screen or s...Oh Marla. If I could reach through the screen or stretch my arms across the miles, please know that I would. Stories like yours beg for touch, I think. At least that's the response that rises in me ...<br /><br />And when you sent that card and wrestled with it so hard - friend, can I just whisper some words Jesus spoke over you? "She did what she could." It was enough what the woman who anointed him for his burial did and it is enough for you to send even a generalized Mother's Day sentiment. Do what you can do. There is no shame or condemnation in that. He sees you and he knows. Praying that peace washes over you tonight ...<br /><br />Thank you for your beautiful candor, Marla. So very nice to meet you here.Kelli Woodfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00693942264588745151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-22442516039624583452014-05-20T16:24:51.407-07:002014-05-20T16:24:51.407-07:00Isn't that the miracle, Constance? That utterl...Isn't that the miracle, Constance? That utterly new and different relationship is a glorious redemption, indeed.Amber Cadenashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16495600314886616325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-54020285432502864482014-05-20T16:22:42.260-07:002014-05-20T16:22:42.260-07:00Wow, Kelly. So beautifully said. I didn't know...Wow, Kelly. So beautifully said. I didn't know that about the Hebrew for honor, but that leaves a lot of room for different kinds of relationships, or lack of. Thank you for this.Amber Cadenashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16495600314886616325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-1779348686419085962014-05-20T13:15:20.202-07:002014-05-20T13:15:20.202-07:00Oh, Marla. Your beautiful heart shines straight th...Oh, Marla. Your beautiful heart shines straight through your words. I can only imagine the pain you've experienced over these years, but yes, dear woman, Christ is writing a redemption story straight through you to generations to come. Bless you as you journey through healing. Much love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-39062284800743601092014-05-20T12:22:49.246-07:002014-05-20T12:22:49.246-07:00How wonderful that you are the one to break the ch...How wonderful that you are the one to break the chains of pain and lack of love! In your lifetime, in your life you get to see God's grace making a new kind of mother/daughter relationship.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your story with us.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13275778106916877887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-27422460584658811482014-05-20T11:24:58.336-07:002014-05-20T11:24:58.336-07:00I agree with Amber, Marla - your prayers, your for...I agree with Amber, Marla - your prayers, your forgiveness, your grace AND your willingness to admit the hurt and pain are all ways of honoring your mother. To honor something in the Hebrew bible means to recognize its weight. The parent-child relationship is a weighty thing that influences all of life whether we ever met our birth parents or not. You recognize the weight of that relationship and continue to hand it over to God. I truly believe that your willingness to do that will have an extremely positive effect on your relationship with your daughter. Thanks so much for sharing. I'll admit I was hesitant to read this because my relationship with my own mother has been difficult in recent years - I need to attend to that more.kchripczukhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15585289101589690551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7693390593188122891.post-52405654081311626812014-05-20T06:57:35.041-07:002014-05-20T06:57:35.041-07:00Marla, there are so many thoughts running through ...Marla, there are so many thoughts running through me after reading this, things I would love to shout out or whisper to you, but I don't want to clog this space with words. But this one thing - I feel you have powerfully demonstrated what honoring your mother looks like in direct contradiction to accusations she has flung at you in her brokenness. You have honored her with grace, forgiveness, recognition, with your openness to hope even as you wrestle with what that looks like practically. You have done more than I think I could have in your shoes. I'm so sorry for your pain, beautiful friend. And I stand amazed at what God has done and continues to do in your life. I LOVE who you are.Amber Cadenashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16495600314886616325noreply@blogger.com